When I started this hair journey, I must say I didn’t really know what to expect. I had had full on natural hair at an earlier point in my life (I was about 9-13 years old) but the thing is I always had it hot combed and blow dried. Any time it shrunk even a tiny bit we’d freak out – “we” being myself and my mom; that first natural hair moment was definitely not one I walked alone. When I tried it again at the apex of my 21st birthday, I was really hoping for the best.
It was a process of relearning. How to touch my hair, how to wash it, comb it: all of these aspects had to change drastically and I had a time where I had accepted I’d always look like a mess. The “hair goals” pictures I had held on to for so long started to seem like a farfetched delusion. I didn’t see my hair fitting in any of those pictures.
The turning point for me was when I stopped looking at those pictures and spent my Pinterest energies elsewhere, all the while playing trial and error with my hair. I would have an image of what I wanted it to look like, and head into styling it that way. By the grace of God purely I learnt how to do flat twists; something I tried to ask my saloon lady to do and she looked at me like I was from another realm. I had to learn them. I made the funniest of the funny, uneven flat twists until my fingers could gauge how much hair was enough and it started to take shape. That was around 2018, by the by.
This I do for almost every aspect. I take my time, and if I am adding a product to my basket it has to be serving a specific purpose; not just one of filling my shelf. Sometimes I do research, other times I am on the explore page of my Instagram watching tutorials of women with hair like mine. Getting ideas for hairstyles? Maybe. But mostly I was looking at how their hands moved, what they used and how best I could substitute those products for something more available or if better, something in my kitchen.
The new year came with new ideas and a fresh rejuvenation for these tresses. This is why I got this blog and dedicated it to my 4C nature: so I could share my journey as well as help others on the same journey to avoid the mistakes I made and jump straight to the “goals.” I wanted to leave a resource for women to use, to make their hair care journey one they love rather than loathe. I wanted to share the stories of those who have been on the journey and how they navigated it. I am not here to start a conversation; I’m continuing one that has been here for decades.
It’s 2019 now and my excitement is at P.2 child at break time levels. I’m more than excited that you’re reading this post, and would love to know the reason you’re here so please take a few seconds to take the poll below, your input is of more value to me than sapphires (someone come and try to give me sapphires instead of the information you wonderful humans are leaving, I’ll simply refuse them. For real. Try me.)
Anyhow without further ado, here is my 2016 – 2019 growth thus far, I’m really proud of how far I’ve come, and can’t wait to see how far I’ll go. Hopefully you’re still on the journey with me!